Over many years we have developed a list of books and resources which we and others have found helpful. If you would like further help in finding a title or would like to suggest a title to add to our listing please contact the Support and Information Team or call 0800 02 888 40.
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The books below may be helpful for parents and carers, professionals and schools who are supporting children and young people who have been bereaved of someone special.
When your Partner Dies: Supporting your children
A short booklet which offers guidance around things that a surviving partner may struggle with when parenting their bereaved children as well as coping with their own grief. It has been developed with help from bereaved families and has been kindly funded by BBC Children in Need. Useful for GP surgeries, Health visitors etc.
A Child's Grief: supporting a child when someone in their family has died
Author: Di Stubbs, Julie Stokes, Katrina Alilovic
This short booklet offers practical suggestions and activities for adults who are supporting children through a bereavement. It covers a range of issues that may affect a child when someone important to them dies, both immediately and in the longer term.
You Just Don’t Understand: Supporting bereaved teenagers
Author: Helen Mackinnon
The transition from childhood to adulthood can be a challenging process at the best of times. This booklet aims to help you understand what is normal adolescent development, and to recognise the additional problems teenagers may face if someone important dies during these years.
Someone Very Important Has Just Died
Author: Mary Turner
This short book tackles the sensitive issues of what to tell children, how far to include them in the events immediately after the death, and how to tend to their physical and emotional needs. The material is suitable for anyone regardless of their background and beliefs, and is supplemented with information on where to go to obtain longer term bereavement support.
Talking About Death
Author: Earl Grollman
This guide to helping children cope with death includes an illustrated, read-along story, and discusses coping with a child’s anger, denial or guilt, and how to discuss funerals, cemeteries and grief.
Grief in Children: A Handbook for Adults
Author: Atle Dyregov
This fully updated second edition of “Grief in Children” explains children’s understanding of death at different ages and gives a detailed outline of exactly hoe the adults around them can best help them cope
The Little Book of Bereavement for Schools
Author: Ian Gilbert
A short, personal account of the way various schools tried to support the author’s three children after the death of their mother. A good book for a parent to take into any school wondering how best to support grieving pupils. It opens with a brief 15 point guide which would be a helpful starting point.
A Special Kind of Grief
Author: Sarah Helton
Children with SEND (special educational needs and disabilities), especially those in special schools, often experience grief at a much younger age than others, as some of their peers are more likely to have life-limiting medical conditions. This book provides all the resources that educational professionals need to ensure their community is fully prepared to acknowledge and support pupil bereavement and loss.
Remembering Lucy: A Story about Loss and Grief in School
Author: Sarah Helton
Children with SEND (special educational needs and disabilities) often experience grief at a much younger age than other children. This touching short story will help children with SEND aged 3+ understand feelings caused by death and loss, and the beautiful hand drawn illustrations help convey the complex experience of bereavement in a simple and clear way. Included is a teacher’s guide to talking about bereavement, grief and loss, making this the ideal aid for teachers and support staff at SEND schools and colleges.