The grieving children and young people that we work with tell us how their school responds is very important to them.

Many schools will respond in a caring and appropriate way, but others may not. Most staff want to help but sometimes they are not sure what to do or say. This can result in them saying or doing little, or even nothing at all.

If you are concerned about your children’s school give our support and information line a call, 0800 02 888 40 and we can talk through ways we can help your child, their school and you.

Nurseries, schools and colleges are busy places and many grieving parents and carers don’t want to be seen to be making a fuss.  It might help you to have a reassuring chat with a teacher or voicing concerns if you have them. Support for your child will be most effective if everyone can work together.  Most schools will appreciate you getting in touch and will want to help both you and your child at this sad and difficult time.

Read more in our information sheet, ‘Grieving Children and Young People: the Role of School’.

Children with special educational needs and their grief

All children and young people, regardless of their circumstances, have a right to have their grief recognised, hear the truth and to be given opportunities to express their feelings and emotions. Children with learning difficulties are no different but may need extra help with their understanding and ways to express feelings. Read more in our information sheets below.

Information sheet: Children with special educational needs and their grief

Information sheet: Supporting bereaved children and young people with Autistic Spectrum difficulties

We have many resources available on our dedicated For Schools section of our website


 

Finding your own way to grieve

Finding your own way to grieve

Author: Karla Helbert

A creative activity workbook for grieving children and teens on Autistic Spectrum. The clear, concise language will help adults communicate with children around the abstract concepts of death and grief. A useful and practical book.

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When Mum Died

When Mum Died

Author: Hollins and Sireling

This book takes an honest and straightforward approach to death and grief in the family. The pictures tell the death of a parent in a simple but moving way. “When Mum Died” shows a burial. The approach is non-denominational.

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When Dad Died

When Dad Died

Author: Hollins and Sireling

This book takes and honest and straightforward approach to death and grief in the family. The pictures tell the death of a parent in a simple but moving way. The approach is non-denominational.

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When Somebody Dies

When Somebody Dies

Author: Hollins and Sireling

Using pictures, the book tells the story of Mary who is very upset when someone she loves dies. She is encourages by a friend to go to regular bereavement counselling sessions, which help her to feel less sad. John also loses someone he is close to. He is given comfort and companionship by friends and is shown learning to cope better with life.

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Interventions with Bereaved Children

Interventions with Bereaved Children

Author: Smith and Pennells

A useful resource with lots of practical ideas. Twenty contributors share effective ways of supporting and helping bereaved children. Chapter 13 is titled, “Helping Families and Professionals to Work with Children who have learning difficulties.”

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Autism and Loss

Autism and Loss

Author: RV Forrester-Jones

“Autism and Loss” is a complete resource that covers a variety of kinds of loss, including bereavement. It includes factsheets and practical ideas which families and professional carers may find useful.

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